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In the ebb and flow of a long-term relationship, that initial enthusiasm at times gives way to routine. However, reigniting romance is not only possible; it’s required if you’d like to keep the flames burning. Here are some exquisite and quite practical ways to reignite that passionate connection after years together. Romance Reacquainted With Each Other This may sound very obvious, but the first steps toward reclaiming romance have to do with taking some time to get reacquainted with each other. Years go by, and people change, as do their interests and desires. Spend quality time together, talking about your dreams, hobbies, and aspirations. Deep conversations will help you bond again with your loved one in a more personal way. Date Nights: Plan regular date nights where the two of you get to spend concentrated time with each other, not being distracted by anything. It doesn’t have to be some big deal outings. Simple things, really quite discrete but rather observant—like preparing dinner at home or having a movie night—may work just fine. New Experiences: Engage yourselves in new things that break the routine. New experiences bring new memories and rejuvenate the excitement—whether it be attending a cooking class, going for a hike, or visiting a new place. Rekindle Common Interests Remember why you came together in the first place. Go back to the things you used to share in common and some of your shared passions or hobbies that glued you together. Share activities that you used to do together at the early stages. It may mean going back to old favorite movies, making special meals for each other once again, or taking up a hobby that you used to be in love with. Create Rituals: Develop new rituals that are peculiar to your relationship. It may be something as basic as having morning coffee together or going for an evening walk. Small acts repeated consistently can deeply make one feel close. Physical Intimacy Though there remains no denying that it is the physical touch that keeps one connected with the loved one, the fact remains that the amount of physical intimacy decreases over time. Small displays of love may get back the spark. Re-Kindle Intimacy: Be very open about what you would like and what you would want to try. Open discussion about what you enjoy and where you would like to go makes a relationship far more intimate and helps ensure that neither party remains unfulfilled. The crux of any good relationship is communicating well. Be open and forthright in sharing your feelings, worries, and desires. Never assume he knows what is going through your mind or heart. Active Listening: Be sure to have active listening where you genuinely care about what your partner wants to say. This builds up empathy and binds the connection. Surprise Each Other These can sort of be exciting and spontaneous. Small acts of consideration will let your partner know that you are thinking about them and that you do care. Gestures of Kindness: Let your sweetie discover that you have given him/her something special he loves, be it his favorite snack, some sweet note, or even an outing planned out. These little surprises can put back ‘delightful’ in times with each other. Personal Growth Redevelopment in romance should sometimes start with personal growth. First of all, develop your being and focus on your well-being because it will reflect positively on your relationship. Follow Interests: Follow interests and hobbies that enrich you as a person. Most of the time, it enriches the relationship if both parties are happy and growing individually. Seek Professional Help If you are really trying to get that romance on and it just is not happening, then perhaps it’s time to seek out professional help. Relationship counseling can be of great benefit in terms of insight and strategies regarding communication and intimacy. Couples therapy will help the therapist walk you through the issues and provide tools that will help in improving your relationship. It provides a safe environment where both assess deeper issues together and find solutions. Conclusion Keeping romance alive within a long-term relationship requires much work, artistic effort, and a willingness to grow as a couple. Find each other again, rekindle the things that brought you together, and keep up the physical intimacy and open communication. Give each other surprises; grow as a person. Take professional help, if needed, for love, after all, is not reaching a point; its journey itself changes over time. Embrace the process, and let your love story grow.